It is heartbreaking to see them make the same mistakes over and over again. I see women who continually find men who, for whatever reason, never step up to treat them the way they deserve. I realized that it had very little to do with the men, but more to do with how the women approached dating. They were too emotionally entrenched in the experience and could not see how they were creating some of the dynamics. I myself was a victim of this until I recognized my part in this process and then I began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve.
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On the other hand, it has completely changed the course of dating forever, and not for the better. When I was in middle school if you liked someone you had to pick up your landline phone, call their home number, and speak to their mom to ask if they were even available. This took balls! Yes, guys had to have serious balls to actually speak to the girl they liked, which meant they had to have skin in the game. Today, overuse of texting with little phone or real life conversation has made it too easy to back out or keep feelings superficial. So if we want a quality man to take charge while dating, we have to give him the power to.
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Of all of the dating dilemmas people come to me with, texting is at the top of the list. I have no doubt that texting etiquette and texting interpretation faux pas have tanked more budding relationships than anyone could actually count! I hear a lot of women complain about men who text instead of call. The argument goes: If he really liked me, he'd call me, not text. The truth is: you don't have any idea what it means to him or her to text you in the early stages of getting to know each other.
Bad news bears, singles: Match. But even though the playing field has become a bit of uncharted territory, some traditional dating do's and dont's still apply. Younger singles are more likely to friend their date on Facebook, communicate by text after a date, and be evasive about their availability if they're not interested in a second date. Whereas older singles are more cautious when it comes to dating in the digital era.